I just saw that one of my posts from April 17th(the night before Lar's CT scan) did not post. Apparently, me and Blogger are still fighting. So, here it is....
When I was a boy, and would see scary things on the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers, you will always find people who are helping" - Mr. Rogers
As a child, I feel like I learned from watching Mr. Roger's neighborhood, I never thought I would continue to learn from him in adulthood.
In times that make you question humanity (the Boston Marathon bombing, cancer diagnosis, etc.) we search to make sense of it all. Our humanly instinct is to try and find the answer to the 'why'. Why would someone place 4 bombs in a public place to kill and injury many innocent people? Why did my brother get cancer? For many reasons we seek the 'why' to somehow comfort us. Maybe if we find out the why we feel the act will not be repeated?? If we find the why and the act will not be repeated then we don't have to worry that it will happen again and effect us directly?
Through my week of reflection, I have gained the perspective of putting my energy into things that I do have control over. If I get stuck on the why and continually pursue the answer to it, I am wasting important energy that I can place elsewhere. Yes, they will find the people responsible for the bombing. Yes, they will find a cure for cancer one day. But does that answer the why? Does it give us the comfort we so desperately seek right now?
Mr. Roger's points out that in times like this we should Look for the Helpers. WOW! That puts so much into perspective:
- In times like this seek the positive. There are more people helping than there are bombers and cancer. There is more good in this world than bad.
- In times like this we all feel vulnerable and need to ask for help in any capacity - that's ok.
This morning I woke up to the sweet tune of Sweet Caroline playing on the news. The newscasters were reporting on last night's Yankees game. During the 7th inning stretch of the game, they played the song in honor of Boston. You see the Boston Red Sox play the song during the seventh inning stretch of every home game. It's like THEIR song. Like Chelsea Dagger is to the Blackhawks. It was the Yankees organization's way of showing the Bostonians that they were thinking of them. That they were their helpers. Such a sentiment coming from one of the biggest rivalries known to sports.
Here is the Sweet Caroline Video
Tomorrow morning, Larry will have a CAT scan and by tomorrow afternoon we will find out if he has any tumors or abnormalities due to his cancer. This will be a good exercise of seeking the positive and not placing all my energy in the why. Whether it's good news or bad news putting energy in the 'why' won't help me (it will only help the doctors). Whether it's good news or bad news I will remain positive because that is how I have chosen to live my life. And whether it's good news or bad news I will feel vulnerable and as Mr. Roger's taught me, I will look for my helpers. There are plenty of them out there! I am asking my helpers to put good energy in the air tomorrow.
Sox it to it Lar...
Sox it to it Lar...
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